Christmas Present Ideas For Her

The season of Christmas is not only a period of celebration, but it is also a time to exchange gifts. If you are here because you are looking for the best present ideas for her this Christmas, then I would say you are at the right place. As a person who has had experience with different characters of women, I will say that I am in the right position to know what they prefer as presents during the period of Christmas.

I do not know what you can afford for a Christmas present; as a result I would give you varieties under one category. The perfect gift to give her during the period of Christmas is jewelry. Women adore jewelries. Under jewelry, there are a lot of varieties of jewelries. Many things fall under jewelry. It will be better to make it a surprise and make her scream “oh my gosh” with smiles filled all over her face. You need to keep her on suspense. The way to do this I will describe all of them to you.

The perfect jewelry types to give her during this Christmas period are necklace, watches, bracelets or even watches. If you have money to spend, not in a wasteful manner but through a wise manner, then you can go for gemstones. A jewelry made of diamond will be perfect. Gold would even be best. No matter what you chose, there is need to make it unique. Jewelries made of original diamond or gold can make a relationship stronger. You know why? Because diamond is forever and as long as she wears the diamond the more she remembers you. Many people think that diamond-made jewelries are no go area in terms of its cost. I say no. you could get a jewelry made of diamond for $120. But it is likely to be a ring. If you have about $500 or more to spend, then you can get a good diamond-made jewelry like a necklace. But if you do not have much you could as well go for other gemstones-made jewelries like platinum, silver, Platinum and the rest of others. I will reveal to you a store where you would get the cheapest jewelries on earth. When you buy the gift, simply wrap it using a gift pack. A pink color will be smart. Get a paper and write this statement on it, ‘to the one I love’, give it to her and watch how the love your partner will skyrocket for you. The Christmas present ideas for her that fall under jewelry could be necklace, bangle, bracelet, earring etc.

Tips for Avoiding Mixed Messages When You Present

The next time you step up to speak in a high-stakes situation, consider this: Are your words, language, voice and body aiding – or impeding – the delivery and impact of your message?

Most presenters realize too late that they’re sabotaging their effectiveness by not paying an equal amount of attention to the “how” as well as the “what” when they’re speaking. I’m sure you’ve witnessed a situation where a speaker’s words were contradicted by their body language or voice. Chances are, these contradictions made you question the presenter’s credibility.

For example, I recently saw a speaker conclude his presentation by saying, “I welcome any discussion on the information I’ve shared. Does anyone have a question?” The problem was, he said this while gazing down at his shoes. Because he said one thing while his body language indicated something completely different, no one raised a hand and the presentation came to an awkward, abrupt close.

Research shows that in circumstances where spoken and non-verbal communication is in conflict, your audience will believe your unspoken message over what you’re saying aloud. But when your spoken and non-verbal messages are congruent, communication is naturally more clear and easier to understand.
What you say…and how you say it

To have any chance of inspiring your listeners to take action, you have to make sure that your words, body language and voice are all in sync, working together to help your listeners believe 100% in what you’re saying.

To avoid impeding your impact through mixed messaging, here are four areas to consider:

Posture. Nothing suggests a thorough grasp on the subject matter and establishes your authority and credibility more than powerful posture – squared, direct and erect but not rigid or tense. Avoid clenching the podium, which communicates fear, or shifting your weight from foot to foot, which conveys nervousness and can be enormously distracting to your audience.

Gestures. Consciously assess your hand gestures, asking, “What are they actually communicating to my audience?” Hand movements should be spontaneous and purposeful in complementing and punctuating your message, not half-hearted and weak. Remember: extraordinary presenters use more gestures that the average speaker.

Facial expression. Widened eyes, a furrowed brow, a frown or a smile are all important signals about how you feel about your own message. Unfortunately, under the pressure of delivering a presentation, many speakers don’t pay enough attention to their facial expressions. The effort of concentrating on your delivery can often come across as grim.

What’s the solution? As with gestures, consciously align your facial expressions with your message. If this isn’t something that comes naturally to you, try practicing in front of a mirror. Better yet, record and review your rehearsal.

Voice. Tone of voice should reinforce your words while helping you emotionally connect with your audience. For example, anger or joy tends to bring out a louder voice, while sadness or fear calls for toned-down volume. Varying your rate, pitch and volume when expressing yourself will engage your audience and elevate the impact of your message to a sure-fire home run.

To build enthusiasm and support for your vision, always remember that how you say something carries just as much importance – and may influence your audience more -than what you say. By aligning and using every resource at your disposal, you’ll more easily move your audience in the right direction every time you step up to speak

Negotiate Successfully by Feigning Emotional Distress

A friend who knows I have a very tough emotional skin, recently exchanged e-mails with me in which I played the role of being emotionally wounded, by what she wrote in her e-mail. What she wrote did not really cause emotional distress in me, but I responded as though it had to get a reaction from her.

Based on her responses, to me pretending to being ‘hurt’, I knew I had altered her emotional state of mind. In the end, I told her I was gathering information for this week’s negotiation lesson and wanted to use her as an example of how the strategy of feigning emotional distress can be used. Her last e-mail was, “kidddiiiinnnnggggg and you are pulling my leg. It just got so long!” She and her husband are dear friends and I knew to a great degree how she would most likely respond. Nevertheless, you can use the tactic of feigning emotional distress anytime you negotiate.

One reason this tactic is so effective is due to the fact that most people want to build and maintain rapport when they negotiate. To the degree that you break rapport, by feigning emotional distress, you can emotionally move the other person from one position to another. Thus, this tactic can be used as a powerful diversion. The following are examples of how you can use this tactic when negotiating via different mediums.

When you negotiate via e-mail:

The tactic of feigning emotional distress is easiest to use when you negotiate via e-mail. The main reason this is true is due to the fact that your negotiation partner cannot ‘pick up’ any other clues to your real demeanor. In addition, when using this medium to negotiate, there’s more room for misinterpretation, misperception or the projection of such. Here’s an example of how you can use this tactic via e-mail:

· Build rapport over a period of time and as long as the negotiation is progressing in the manner you wish, continue to proceed.

· Once you wish to feign emotional distress, alter your style of writing. If you’re prior e-mails were long and flowery, change your style to short and terse.

· Once the negotiation is back on the track you wish, reward your negotiation partner by going back to the writing style you had prior to feigning emotional distress.

When you negotiate via telephone:

When using this tactic over the phone, you need to observe the pace at which you and your negotiation partner speak. At the point you wish to utilize the emotional distress tactic, you can:

· Alter your pace of speaking (if you were previously speaking fast with a level of excitement in your voice, alter your voice to cast doubt/uncertainty and speak at a slower pace)

· If questioned about why your demeanor seems to have changed, indicate that everything is OK, but you’re not sure about ‘x’ (that which you’re discussing)

· Allow the other person to ‘pull out’ of you the fact that you don’t feel comfortable with the way in which the negotiation is headed. Let him suggest possible solutions to the perceived problem.

· Once you find yourself back on the negotiation track you wish to be on, go back to the cheerful person you were before you were emotionally distressed.

When you negotiate via face-to-face:

Face-to-face negotiations can be the most difficult arena in which to use this tactic. That’s the case, because your negotiation partner can pick up other cues from your body language. You have to communicate your emotional distress verbally and non-verbally and the two have to be synchronized with one another. When negotiating face-to-face, you can:

· Initially be in a jovial and very uplifting mood

· When you wish to alter the negotiation by acting emotionally distressed, don’t respond to a question that’s posed to you. Let silence hang in the air like a storm cloud waiting to release its rain.

· After feigning befuddlement, allow yourself to be drawn back into the negotiation by having your negotiation partner question what occurred to you. The best scenario would be one in which your negotiation partner asks what he can do to get the negotiation back on track. At that point, you’ll have additional insight into what else he may be willing to forgo in order to appease you. After you’ve ‘made your move’, assume the jovial manner by which you were communicating prior to feigning emotional distress.

Feigning emotional distress during a negotiation can and should be used with great care. While it can prove to be a very useful tactic, it can also take the negotiation in a direction from which you may not be able to recover. Determine how you’re going to use this tactic in the planning stage of the negotiation. Make sure you include in your plan what you’ll do if the tactic does not work in the manner you expect.

In essence, by using this tactic, you’re invoking psychological warfare. If this dynamic negotiation tactic is used in the right negotiation environment, by the right negotiator, at the right time, against the right negotiation opponent, you’ll find you have an enormously strong negotiation tool that can assist you in reaching more favorable negotiation outcomes … and everything will be right with the world.

The negotiation lessons are:

· While feigning emotional distress, be aware that a good negotiator can turn this dynamic tactic against you. Thus, you should be prepared to address the potential of such occurrences.

· If you are apprehensive about using this tactic, try it out with a friend to get over your fear or apprehension. After you’ve tried it on your friend, inquire as to how your friend felt and the thoughts that occurred in her mind. Then, thank her for helping you become a better negotiator.

· When using this tactic in a face-to-face negotiation, remember to match your body language with your words. Make sure your message from both aspects is synchronized; if not, you’ll diminish the tactic.